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On October 4, 1997,
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I walked into a room unlike any room I'd ever entered before.
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People were standing up, sharing their stories.
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A wave of relief washed over me.
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I got a cup of coffee
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and just took everything in.
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At that point,
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I was at the lowest point in my life.
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I was out of ideas,
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and I didn't know how I was going to make it out of the condition I was in.
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Before that date, my life had not been easy.
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When I was 25 years old, I gave birth to a son.
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We called him K.K.
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The next thing that happened changed my life forever.
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He was struck by a car.
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That is the day I lost him.
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At only five years old,
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he was gone.
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His laughter, his love, his energy
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were all taken from me.
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My life became a downward spiral.
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I began to drink.
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Drinking led to substance use.
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For the substance use, I was imprisoned.
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Every time I left prison,
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I swore I wouldn't go back.
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But I did. Over and over and over again.
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I remember one day, standing in front of a judge
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and asking that judge, "Is there any help for me?"
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And the judge sentenced me to prison one more time.
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No one cared.
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No one was listening.
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But when I walked into that room in 1997,
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I was ready to be heard.
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In the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous,
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they listened.
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I took a deep breath and stood up,
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and said, "Look what drugs and alcohol have done to me."
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The immediate compassion,
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empathy and love
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that rolled off these complete strangers
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was enough to put a sizable dent
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in my pain, my shame,
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my guilt and all that sorrow.
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I kept talking,
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and they kept listening.
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I shared all the thoughts
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I had spent decades trying to silence.
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As they listened, I began to heal.
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Listening saved my life, and it opened a door.
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I got sober in Santa Monica,
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an affluent part of Los Angeles.
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And I noticed something there.
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People in Santa Monica
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weren’t going to prison for substance use,
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for alcoholism.
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And I thought,
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why didn't that judge give me a paper and say,
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"Miss Burton,
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go to AA.”
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Was I not worth a piece of paper?
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Was I not worth direction toward a solution?
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So as I got stronger in my recovery,
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I thought about women just like me,
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cycling in and out of prison,
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looking for safety and not finding it.
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So I got a job.
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A minimum wage job.
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And I saved $13,000.
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And I took $3,000 of it and put down on a house.
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And I bought some furniture.
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Every morning I’d wake up,
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and I'd go down to the Greyhound bus station
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where women leaving prison were dropped off.
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And I knew that station well
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because I had been dropped off there so many times myself.
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And as they got off the bus carrying a trash bag of belongings
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and hope in their hearts,
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I would walk up to them and I'd say, "Girl, I have a house.
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And if you want to come live there,
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it's a safe place to be.
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You can come live there."
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And before long there were 11 of us living in that house.
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We cooked together.
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We went to meetings together.
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We shared resources.
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We laughed together.
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We cried together.
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But most of all, we healed together.
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Before long, people saw what I was doing, and they joined me.
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And we created a team.
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Today, there [are] 12 houses across Los Angeles.
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(Applause)
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Thank you.
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What we built was a house of women helping women.
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Each house is staffed to support its residents
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who pay rent,
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do chores,
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buy groceries
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and learn to be accountable, responsible members of the community.
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We help them find jobs,
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learn financial literacy
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and help them with any legal issues.
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As a result, thousands of women have come back to the community
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and hundreds of mothers have been reunited with their children.
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In 2017, I published my memoir,
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"Becoming Ms. Burton:
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From Prison to Recovery
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to Leading the Fight for Incarcerated Women."
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In order to tell my story, I held book talks all over the nation,
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behind prison walls.
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There I would listen to women.
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They were pleading for a place to go after they were released.
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They were sitting with tears streaming down their faces,
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wanting to rebuild their lives,
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be reunited with their children,
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find a job in their community [and]
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break free from the criminal justice system.
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Every year in this country,
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around two million women are released from prisons and jails.
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